The Covert narcissist knows who you are and exactly how he will tear down your psychological and emotional reserves. He picks away at your “faults.” These are manufactured by the narcissist to weaken your sense of self, to lower your self respect, feelings of optimism. Soon after the marriage, trouble begins with the narcissist’s drumbeat demands, devaluing, demeaning manner. You are the perfect “catch” for this person who has calculated your value to him from the beginning. You come from a fine family, are well educated, physically attractive, are socially adept, professionally successful– and the long list goes on and on. You have been chosen by them to provide the maximum in narcissistic supplies. These individuals lead several lives at one time. The charm offensive of the Covert is acted out with perfection: a Broadway level performance. The Covert is an expert at presenting himself as charming, giving, kind, genuine, empathic and psychologically grounded. The covert narcissist is masterfully clever at concealing his malicious, dark, cruel traits. In the case of the Covert it is exceedingly difficult to discern the true nature of this wolf in sheep’s clothing. There is no way the innocent party could have known that this individual is a narcissist. (This post refers to male and female narcissists.) So often I speak with clients who have unwittingly married a covert narcissist. Covert narcissists are incapable of forming and maintaining genuine relationships.
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